Dear Weary Mom,
If we were sitting down for coffee I would tell you how hard this motherhood thing can be, in ways I never imagined. I would be honest and tell you that, if you’d asked me what I wanted to do when I ‘grew up’ – being a mama never made the list. I think there were moments where I wanted to be a ballerina, an astronaut, a famous author living in a fabulous apartment in New York City, but never a mother. Maybe it’s because I wasn’t around a lot of little ones growing up, so I just assumed that I had no maternal instincts.
Dating, getting engaged, getting married – none of those life events changed my heart about wanting to me a mom. I wanted to travel. I wanted to stay up late and go wherever I wanted and not think about being so…needed…all the time.
And then suddenly, the season of “all of our friends are getting married” turned into the season of “all of our friends are having kids.”
Even then, we weren’t struck with the baby bug. Did I love and adore my friend’s kids? You know it. Did I think my niece was the best thing since Nutella? Without a doubt. Did I think I was capable of being a good mom myself? Nope. But God had other plans.
In ways only God can orchestrate, our hearts changed. We looked at our friends and these amazing children and started to think “Maybe we want that.” And, in God’s perfect timing, we were blessed with our daughter. And our lives changed forever.
This motherhood thing is hard, mama. My heart has been broken repeatedly for this little life. I doubt, daily, that I’m doing it – any of it – the right way. I have healed from life long insecurities and developed new ones all at the same time. Sometimes, the countdown to bedtime starts after breakfast.
We don’t walk this motherhood road alone, sister. We will have impossibly hard days and unbelievably beautiful days. And in every moment in between, we walk hand-in-hand with the Creator of the universe, our God who knew before we did that we would be mamas to these kiddos. He believes in you – and so do I.
I’m linking up today with the Hope for the Weary Mom site for their weekly “Dear Weary Mom” linky party! If you’ve stopped over from their site, welcome! If you haven’t been to their page yet today, hop on over and leave some other weary mamas some love 🙂
Rachael DeWitt says
Love this! I hadn’t seen this link-up before. I’m going to try my hand at it next week. Thanks for introducing me!
Kimberly Thompson says
Yes I’m note sure there will ever be a time when we have days we aren’t already ready for bed ny 9 am 😉 But God is faithful! Isn’t it amazing He knew just what we would need and when….everything in His timing.. Beautiful words…
Stacey, I’m so blessed to be able to give you some encouragement today!
It’s a beautiful, sacrificial refining, this mama thing. Not easy, but OH so worth it 🙂 Love YOU my friend!
“No harder task & no greater joy” – amen Joanne!
Oh thanks so much Danielle! HowTheyBlog was so much fun 🙂
Danielle Cyrus says
By the way, loved reading about you on HowTheyBlog. Now I see your name all over the place. 🙂
Danielle Cyrus says
“Sometimes, the countdown to bedtime starts after breakfast. ” Laughed out loud at that one. 🙂 At least twice last week, I thought, “must be just about lunch time,” and the looked at the clock and it was barely 9am!! I hear you!
I loved this post. “And in every moment in between, we walk hand-in-hand with the Creator of
the universe, our God who knew before we did that we would be mamas to
these kiddos.” No truer statement. My son was married this past weekend. There was so much emotion that was felt by our family as God overwhelmed us with His Presence. There truly is no harder task than being a mama & no greater joy than realizing that our God truly does equip us with all we need.
“I have healed from life long insecurities and developed new ones all at the same time.” — Uh, hello, me! So true. Mothering uncovers us and we are changed. I’m grateful God saw fit to make me a mom and change me.
Love you sweet girl and YOUR heart to encourage us.
Stacey Omokaro says
Beautiful. This tired mummy of five is feeling tired, weary and unappreciated today…I so needed to read this encouragement. God is amazing at meeting our needs. Thank you lovely lady xxx