Growing up I always knew I would have a career. I dreamed of being a magazine editor one day, refining the words and thoughts of writers so we could share them beautifully with the world. That was long before blogging or social media were on my radar, before even AOL and instant messaging chats and realizing that you could connect with other creatives from around the world.
I still love editing. As much as I work in social media, editing is still what I love. I never did find that job, but God has continued to open doors to allow me to use what I love to serve Him, and others. Transitioning from college to a job I thought would be temporary, which turned into a career I learned to love then lost, then to ministry work and now trying to navigate life as a self-employed mama? It’s been hard and it’s been imperfect – and that has been perfectly frustrating.
For the last week or so, that “mama” part of my title has definitely fallen under “perfectly frustrating.” I’ve done all the wrong things, said all the wrong things, had all the wrong reactions. The thing is, my little girl is in that hard stage where she is discovering how much she can do on her own, and the emotions that come with being unable to do EVERYTHING on her own. And as we’re encouraging her in her passions for art and creating, she’s struggling to control those big emotions that fill a little body when the image or idea in her head doesn’t turn out exactly the way she wanted it to.
She’s learning that life isn’t perfect, and she’s perfectly frustrated by it.
And, much like my own reactions when life doesn’t turn out the way that I wish it would, she gets angry. She cries, she calls her hard work “junk” and she doubts the gifts God has given her. I’ve pitched a few of those fits before.
So, as God has been working on my heart – editing and refining and affirming His message in my life – I’ve been sharing with her. Maybe you could use a reminder today, too?
- The gifts God has given you will never be perfect, but they also never “junk.”
- Failure will happen, but we need to see it as an opportunity to try again, not an excuse to give up.
- The first idea is rarely the best idea – allow other people to help you turn it into something amazing.
- Independence is a valuable strength, but that doesn’t mean that depending on others is a weakness.
- Life will be imperfect, but God still calls His creation “good” – let’s not give it any other name.
No one likes to be wrong, or to have their work edited. It’s not easy to accept that we have weaknesses or need others to help us, to make us better and more effective for the work set before us. Keep going, friend. Work hard this week. When it goes imperfectly, don’t allow frustration to keep you from taking the next right step. We’re in this together.
Like I’ve been speaking over my daughter:
We will all make mistakes
But we will always love one another
And we will work to make better choices
Because we are a family.
Theresa Boedeker says
Oh how I wished I had learned that life was not perfect and I was not perfect and that mistakes were perfectly fine when I was as young as your daughter. She is going to be one wise woman, especially with you to remind her of these truths in your article today.
Courtney Stanford says
What a true comparison, Crystal. As the fellow mom of littles as well as a fellow creative, this entire post really hit home with me. A lack of perfection doesn’t equate to junk. Such truth here for me and my little guys! I also really appreciate the reminder: “The first idea is rarely the best idea. Allow others to help you turn it into something amazing!” YES!!! Yes one thousand times. Thank you for speaking gracious wisdom and truth! Thankful for your heart and words, Crystal!
I have a 4 yr old great niece who gives me the teenager eye roll, and a 6 yr old great nephew who already knows everything, the other day I told him God wasn’t going to quit for him to take over. Do we do that to God? Will we ever grow up?
Mary Bonner (@TheMaryBonner) says
I needed this reminder today. Thank you! This is my favorite line “Life will be imperfect, but God still calls His creation “good” – let’s not give it any other name.”
Oh and by the way, you are not the only mama to say and do the wrong thing! I prayed for this morning.
Crystal Stine says
Thank you Mary!
Timely advice today as I have my first piece of writing critiqued by a critique group I am a part of. As I was shuddering in fear and dread your words came to my inbox! Thank you Crystal for this timely bit of wisdom!
Crystal Stine says
How exciting! Praying for their advice and wisdom to be offered in love and received with an open heart. xoxo